10 our of 10
"Well, obviously I'd be a 10 out of 10" my daughter said without hesitation.
She declared this in response to a family conversation about social media. My husband was explaining to our girls about ad targeting, location monitoring and more which you can learn about in this startling documentary.
When she learned that the origins of social media were college guys passing around photos of girls and rating them, she was all, obvi I'm a 10 out 10 over here.
She didn't pause to think about her hair, what she ate that day, how much she had exercised, what clothes she was wearing or how the latest filter on her iPhone made her look.
She wasn't concerned with bettering herself in that moment by planning a post Thanksgiving detox or cleanse. She wasn't worried about compensating for any current or past actions around food. She wasn't worried about how she measured up under anyone else's microscope.
She felt no pressure to be anything other than who she is which is someone who knows her value and worth despite what anyone else says through likes or comments. Don't get me wrong, there are days where she spirals down the negative self esteem rabbit hole just like all of us having this human experience in a complicated, fat phobic world.
I'll take her high self esteem moment that day and challenge you to give yourself a 10 of 10 today and everyday. If a positive affirmation doesn't feel right because it conjures up images of Stuart Smalley from SNL, then just offer yourself a simple phrase..... may I feel worthy, may I feel loved, may I feel valued.
As we head deeper into the holidays, keep your 10 scale handy. You'll likely need it as the days get colder and darker.
Despite Facebook's darker motivations, I'm grateful it spurred on this conversation and the reminder that we can all give ourselves a 10 out of 10, no matter what anybody else thinks or says about our bodies.
xoxo, 
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